I feel like I want to make a big change with this blog. When I first started it, I created it to be a chronicle of my life in Philadelphia and the various adventures I was taking there. However, over the past 18 months, everything in my life has completely shifted. My priorities are different, I no longer live on the East Coast, and my interests have changed. It is time to start something new! Continue reading
With all of the negative news bombarding our television screens, I tend to avoid watching TV at all, other than watching Pretty Little Liars, The Blacklist, and Big Brother. I spend a lot of time browsing the Netflix documentary section to learn some new things and expand my horizons. Here is a list of the five documentaries that I have watched so far that I have completely changed my viewpoint on certain things in life. Continue reading
I have been traveling for the past few days and have been pretty busy making some tough decisions, but I am trying to look at things from a positive perspective. Perspective is an interesting thing. If two people are looking at the same object, they may or may not see two completely different things.
I was walking my dog this morning, and we passed a guy in a truck with his window rolled down. I kind of half smiled at him, crossed behind the truck, and kept walking. The guy did a U-Turn with his truck, passed us again, and yelled something at me. I couldn’t make out exactly what he said, but from the sour look on his face, I could tell that he wasn’t simply yelling “Good Morning, Neighbor!”
I was kind of distraught for a few minutes. Did I do something to offend him? Was he saying something mean about me? Did he think my dog was ugly? In the end I could continue to ruminate over what negative thing he possibly could have said, or I could tell myself that he was simply asking for directions. Which perspective would make me feel better and infuse more positivity into my day?
As I returned home with my dog, I opened my e-mail to see that someone had replied to a comment that I had left on a website. The comment sections on this site are brutal. People attack others left and right, and I rarely comment because I don’t like the energy. Someone had written an article on this site about how travel bloggers should stop telling people that “travel is easy to do” because some people cannot afford to travel. The author asserts that by travel bloggers writing articles, they are making other people who cannot travel feel shameful and worthless. I wrote a comment talking about why I enjoy reading articles by travel bloggers. In my opinion, sharing your travel experiences doesn’t make you an authority on what people should and should not do. Travel articles are meant to be informative, not shame inducing.
I got a lot of replies stating that I must have not read the article and that I didn’t understand that traveling is a privilege for a select few. My immediate reaction was to reply to the comments that I received by being completely defensive. Instead I shared some more examples from my perspective, and left it at that. I didn’t try to get anyone to see anything my way. I just stated my personal experiences and kept it moving. I felt good that I could share my opinion about travel with others, and it felt great that I could express my perspective in such a hostile atmosphere and not feel the need to be aggressive or rude.
Today, as you go through your day, think to yourself, how can I re-frame this situation to be more positive? How can I look at it from another perspective? If you are stuck in traffic and your first impulse is to start freaking out, how can you change your perspective? Perhaps now you have time to catch up on your podcasts or reconnect with a friend on the phone. Every perspective is unique. Honor and respect the opinions of yourself and those of others, even if you don’t see eye to eye.
Comment Below: Have you experienced changing your perspective on something to see a more favorable outcome?
This is part one in a four part series. Click here to read my introduction to the series.
Part 1: My Unemployment Story
As I stated in my introductory post, I worked for my previous employer for five years. It was my first job after graduating from college and it was my first time living in a big city all by myself. It was a relatively small start up company and we only had a handful of employees. I started my programs from scratch and I managed five projects and two employees, and I also ran an organization in the community.
To outsiders, everything looked amazing. Our organization was regularly featured in the news, we were winning awards, and we were earning big partnerships with other companies. However, something was very off. I’m not going to go into any detail as to what happened to the company. All I will say is that it no longer exists.
I can honestly say from the first day I was working there I noticed red-flags all over the place, but I chose to keep ignoring them. I think the reason that I stayed in that job longer than I should have is that I had nothing to compare it to. I thought that the things I was experiencing at work were normal, although when I spoke to my friends and heard stories about their jobs, I quickly realized that I should probably grab my life vest and get off the sinking ship before things got too bad (spoiler alert: I went down with the ship). Things went downhill quickly.
Red Flag #1: Other employees got laid off, but management said that it was just temporary until things got sorted out.
Red Flag #2: Board members started stopping by “just to say Hi.”
Red Flag #3: All meetings started occurring behind closed doors.
Red Flag #4: Staff meetings started becoming few and far between.
Red Flag #5: The shredder was being used so often that it actually seized up and died.
My coworkers and I were called into the conference room. We received our layoff notices, but we were told that it was potentially just temporary until things got sorted out (sound familiar?) I cleaned out my desk, put in my request for my final vacation days, and started trying to figure out what to do next. My lease was about to expire, but I had already renewed it for another year. I had bills to pay. Where was the money going to come from?
I was faced with a decision. I could either stay in Philadelphia and take a retail job to make ends meet, or I could move home and save money and apply to graduate school. The decision was hard, but ultimately I decided to move back home. I had lived in Philadelphia for half of a decade and it never felt like home. It wasn’t for me, but I kept trying to make it work because I was “living the dream” on the East Coast and I didn’t want to move back to the South.
It took me a few months to cope with leaving my life in Philly behind, but a few unexpected events showed me that making the decision to leave was one of the best decisions that I have ever made.
Stay tuned for Part 2: The Aftermath.
I spend a lot of time on YouTube, and my favorite YouTube channels are those that feature inspirational content. I recently came across a video that Stanford’s Graduate School of Business posted where they interviewed Oprah and asked her questions about her life, her career, and what she is up to now. Here is the full interview:
I was only five minutes into watching the interview when I just had to add it to my favorites. I busted out my favorite notebook and started taking notes. I highly recommend watching this interview. Don’t be put off by the long length of the video. You’ll be hooked on her every word and the time will fly by. Here are some of my favorite quotes from Oprah in the interview:
- “There is no doing without being.”
- “Be fueled by your contributions to the world.”
- On deciding how she would pursue her career: “I will not be used by television, I will use television.”
- “Choose how to use your platform.”
- “You don’t have anything to give that you don’t have” [My Favorite]
Oprah is a prime example of someone who follows her intuition and who uses the Law of Attraction. Even when she gets things “wrong,” she knows that every experience is an opportunity to learn and grow and she learns her lesson and keeps it moving.
There are so many inspirational Oprah videos on YouTube. I also highly recommend checking out her video from her Masters Class episode where she talks about how she got the role of Sophia in the movie “The Color Purple.” It so inspiring!
Comment Below: What were your favorite parts of the interview? Who else in TV or entertainment do you look to for inspiration?
Spring is my favorite season, so I’ve been waiting for this day for quite a while. I checked the weather forecast and we are looking at temperatures in the 80’s for next week! As we transition into this Spring season, do a quick check-in with yourself. Here are a few points to consider: Continue reading
Your twenties are all about finding yourself. You explore new career paths, new cities, and new relationships. You become a master at how to cook your favorite dish, you learn new words such as “healthcare premium” and “401K”, and you dream of the day when you will never have to co-sign a lease with a roommate again (drama.drama.drama!).
For some of us, however, our twenties turned into finding ourselves…on a plane, on our way back to our parents’ house because we were handed a pink slip or layoff notice at our place of employment. Continue reading